Showing posts with label Empathy. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Empathy. Show all posts

Friday, January 29, 2016

Challenging Empathy: 30 years on ...

I was reminded today that this week is 30 years on from the Challenger disaster.


I've previously talked about the disaster itself.  It was an odd moment in history - like the Kennedy assassination or September 11th, everyone who was alive seems to know where they were on that night, and their thoughts and feelings.

It's my own tale I want to spend some time going through, as it links to some recent posts of mine.  I was 15, and remember my head full of revision for an upcoming physics test on radiation, when I saw the fateful footage of the Challenger.

I seemed to spend the whole night channel hopping for news and theories.  I'd known about the plan to send the first teacher into space ... we'd heard how safe and reliable the shuttle was ... were there any survivors (for a few moments there was a parachute spotted which confused everyone and gave people false hope).

It was memorable for me, because it was the penultimate time that I did a childhood tradition we probably all have had.  I couldn't sleep, so I went into my parents room to get into bed with them.


I told my parents that I just could not get them out of my head.  It upset me, but also confused me a bit.  The news was always full of terrible things - children being abducted and murdered, natural disasters, planes shot down.  But this really got to me.

The disaster is memorable for the words my mother used to explain why I was feeling that way.  I was a kid with  my head filled with space and science fiction.  Those astronauts were everything I wanted and sought to be, and that made me empathise closely with them.  They were people very much like me, doing something I desperately wanted to follow in their footsteps.  Though I didn't know them that well, it made it feel incredibly personal and scary because I saw so much of myself in them.

It's a comment I use mentally all the time to explain the world around me.  We see terrible things in the news all the time - and often it's not the numbers of people affected or killed which will get to us, but the personal tales which remind us how close the victims are to us.  That is why we change the colour of our Facebook photo after a terrorist attack in Paris, and yet seem blase about attacks elsewhere in the world where many more people die.  We see more of ourselves in the Parisian victims.

On the 30th anniversary, I'm reminded that the challenge with empathy is sometimes we need to spread it a bit wider.  To not just put ourselves in the shoes of people like us, but wherever we can, to put ourselves in the shoes of people a little different.

Sunday, November 15, 2015

Empathy's dark side

I had planned to go into this material at some future date.  Sadly the recent terror attacks in Paris has made the content material more relevant, and hence I've decided to interrupt our series exploring memory to cover this.


One of the problems we're often told about the modern world is that we're too connected electronically, but too disconnected emotionally with one another.  We lack empathy for others.

Empathy is important to how social groups work.  It was believed that there were common properties in all mammalian brains (including humans) to deal with emotional processing which was a vital part of enabling mammals to work in packs/tribes.  Emotion allows animals to inter-relate, and take care and protect each other, rather than caring solely to the needs of the self.

So empathy has got to be a good thing, right?  Sadly not, according to recent research by Anneke Buffone and Michael Poulin of the University Of Buffalo.  Like so many things in life, some is beneficial, but too much can lead to aggression and violence, which alarmingly does not have to be directed back at perpetrators of an experienced injustice.

Their research has shown that when some people are witness to Person A who has been the victim of an ordeal, those witnesses can show quite violent and aggressive behaviour.  Now some of that's not too much of a shocker, a lot of such behaviour is often wrapped up as "a desire for justice".  However, their test was set up and showed that such behaviour is readily applied to someone, even when the witness knows that person is nothing to do with Person A.  A disturbing form of "kicking the dog" to vent emotion.

It goes without saying that such behaviour perpetrates other injustices.  And rather than rectify the original problem, it just mimics and replicates the injustices.

With the recent abhorant behaviour of the Islamic State with their executions, and this recent terror attacks, it has really tugged on the heartstrings of many.  It hurts, it feels unjust, vile, reprehensible and there is a desire to "get back" at them - which is completely understandable.  Criminals should be punished.

Where it gets darker is when we just wish to strike back at not just them, but people who share some common attribute - whether their country of origin, the colour of their skin or their religion.  We want someone to pay, what we often care less for is whether the person who pays legitimately is associated with those who did the crime.

We see this all too often.  When I was a child, there was a murder of a paperboy called Carl Bridgewater who was brutally murdered.  The public was outraged, and demanded someone was caught and prosecuted.  In the end the police fabricated evidence against a group of people to appease the public anger.  It didn't matter that the wrong people were prosecuted, as long as someone was.

We see this time and again - a desire to "get someone" to make someone pay for some crime we feel is horrendous.  Within the British justice system, perhaps the Derek Bentley case sums this most effectively.  A British policeman was shot by a minor, so they charged and hung one of his collaborators based on him allegedly uttering the words "let him have it" (it's open to debate over whether that meant "give him the gun" or "shoot him").  

As an adult I've lived through the September 11th attacks, and the London Bombings.  All of which made my blood boil.  In the shadow of September 11th, attacks on the Sikh community escalated, sometimes spilling into murder.  This was despite Sikhs being nothing to do with the Muslim extremist group behind the attacks - but with their distinguishing turbans they were noticeably different and an easy target.

In the aftermath of the Paris attacks, with 130 dead, there is a desire for retribution.  Retribution disguised as justice. I have seen countless friends or groups who have expressed a desire to bomb the Middle East into the stone age, and to put every refugee from Syria into a detention camp and ship them home.

Ironically I feel this is exactly what the Islamic State wants - to justify their hate with your hate.  To use any action we might take to justify their action, in a way to recruit future Jihadi Johns to their cause.  They want you to distance yourself from your neighbour, your coworker, that guy who owns a shop, who just happens to have a darker complexion to you.

Those who perpetrated the attacks need to be brought to justice (yes, even killed if that's not possible) as well as those behind the attacks.  But as much as possible we should seek to avoid harm to those innocents in the crossfire - people who are as much victims of groups like the Islamic State.

There was a great line at the end of recent Star Trek films, which I'm going to repeat here.  At the end of Star Trek Into Darkness, Khan had caused the deaths of a lot of people, and to be honest, I really wanted him to die in the end, but instead he was allowed to live.  Here's what Kirk said,

"There will always be those who mean to do us harm. To stop them, we risk awakening the same evil within ourselves. Our first instinct is to seek revenge when those we love are taken from us. But that's not who we are"

We should never forget those who are murdered in such attacks.  It's a positive thing that the deaths of so many does move us - although as many have noted, terrorism is going on at an alarm rate elsewhere in the world, with attacks on this scale weekly, but as it occurs away from the western world, we don't pay it as much attention.

However we should not allow ourselves to be the puppets of terrorists or people within our own society with similarly "simplistic yet reactionary" policies.  That is the way of the lynch mob, seeking vengeance in a misguided belief it is pursuing justice.  It neither honours the memories of the victims or help to bring in a more secure world for us all.

Let us always seek to show why we are civilised, and they are the barbarians.

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